Traditions and Superstitions
Tradition requires that the bride and groom do not see each other or speak to each other on the wedding day before the ceremony. The English saying which requires the bride to wear "Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue" is also well-known in Italy.
- Something borrowed : indicates the passage from old to new.
- Something given : to remind you of the affection of your loved ones.
- Something blue : in ancient times blue was the colour of wedding dresses.
- Something old : the importance of the past which must not be forgotten in the transition
towards the future.
- Something new : which is symbolic of the new life which is about to begin new aims and
everything which these will bring.
The tradition of carrying the bride over the threshold when she enters the home for the first time dates from Ancient Rome: they did this to prevent from tripping, a bad omen, which meant that the Gods did not want to accept her.
The time of the wedding.
For centuries, until the end of the 19th century the religious ceremony was always held in the evening at the home of the bride, and was followed by dancing and refreshments. The custom of celebrating weddings in the morning is French. In the 1920s it became fashionable to get married at 2p.m. The Royal families all over the world prefer the ceremony to take place between 11 a.m. and 12:30.
It is considered bad luck for the bride to make her own wedding dress.
An old veil is considered to luckier than a new one specially if it has been lent by a woman who is happily married. It is said that the happiness and fertility of the other woman pass to the bride together with the veil.
It is a good sign if the bride wakes up on the morning of the wedding to the sound of birds singing; and also if she finds a spider hidden in the folds of her dress!
It is good luck if the wedding bed is made by two young maidens.
Tradition says that the girl who catches the bouquet thrown by the bride will be married herself within a year. The same goes for the boy who catches the bride's garter.
It is bad luck if the bride and groom see each other before entering the church or the Registry Office, whilst it is good luck if they smile at each other when see each other inside.
It is highly inadvisable to marry on a Tuesday, which is the day belonging to Mars, the God of war, or on Friday because according to the "Kabbala" it is the day when the evil spirits were created. It is easy to understand why it is better to avoid these days to sanction an union which is destined to last a life time. The Italian proverb "Di Venere e di Marte, non si sposa. nč si parte e non si dą principio all'arte", loosely translated means "On friday and Tuesday don't get married, don't depart and don't start a new venture".
It is said that it is better to get married in a year which ends with an even number.
Sounding the car horn at wedding, derives from the belief that the noise drove away bad spirits.
A strong wind, it seems, according to the tradition, is a sign of rows and misunderstanding between the couple.
In church be very careful not to loose or drop the wedding rings as this means separation or divorce.
A bride who is caught under the rain is considered lucky. Surely this appears to be a kind of consoling the bride for not having chosen a sunny day for her wedding but there is an explanation. Rain is a symbol of fortune and abundance which falls generously on the bride and groom.
One of the most appropriate lucky charms for the wedding day is the aquamarine which assures faithfulness and an happy marriage